How to find the best hypnotist for YOU specifically. The few things you should know before your first session.
The Two Essential Elements For Success
Above all else, one single factor will rule the success of your hypnosis sessions. This factor is trust. Without trust nothing will happen. Choose a hypnotist you know you can trust. The reverse is also true: I would refer out a a client if I think it’s in the best interest of the client, rather than risk dissatisfaction.
The relationship between a hypnotist and his client is somewhat similar to that between a teacher and a student. The process requires not only a skilled hypnotist but also a willing client. I can help you amplify even a faintest spark into a raging fire… but that spark of desire comes from you because it is your life, your aspiration, your desire. The second most important factor for success is your sincere desire for change.
Your Mind Works Perfectly
Life is an unending stream of new experiences and new learnings. From the moment you are born, you start to learn, by example, by playing, by doing or trough stories.
But sometimes you learned the wrong stuff … maybe inadvertently, maybe by accident, maybe because of the environment … or even maybe because none of us had professional parents who never make any mistake.
Smoking, overeating, stress, insomnia, depression, and even some cases of chronic pain, are all responses and behaviours we got because we didn’t know better at the time.
The important thing is that it is not your fault. Your mind works perfectly well — if you have a problem it is not your mind but the stuff you learned. Garbage In — Garbage Out. It becomes however your responsibility once you discover there is a problem.
Once upon a time there was a new bride making her first dinner for a fancy party. So she tries her mother’s brisket recipe, cutting off the ends of the roast the way her mother always did. Hubby thinks the meat is delicious, but says, “Why do you cut off the ends — that’s the best part!” She answers, “That’s the way my mother always made it.”
But she starts thinking: “Why am I doing this? This doesn’t make any sense.” So she goes for advice to mum. And the mother is equally perplexed. She never thought of it either. And then she says “Let’s go to the real expert. Grandma.”
The next week, they go to the old grandma’s house, as she prepares the famous brisket recipe, again cutting off the ends. The young bride is sure she must be missing some vital information, so she asks her grandma why she cut off the ends. Grandma says, “Oh, darling, my pan is very small, that’s the only way it will fit in!”
What Is Hypnosis And How Hypnosis Can Help You?
Hypnosis is just a special form of communication. It is a method of communicating with that part of your mind that is normally outside your conscious awareness. That part is the subconscious, the origin of your emotions, automated responses, behaviours and many other resources that helps you navigate this world safely and efficiently.
Occasionally things go wrong. You may have had bad experiences. You may have learned the wrong lessons. By using the hypnosis framework, a hypnotist can help you to properly change your frame of mind. You cannot change the past but you can change the way you react to it. You can change the way you go forward.
A hypnotist guides you, inside your inner mind, to find your inner resources, and then change the way you respond to problems in a healthy and long-lasting way, such that the problems simply vanish. For example, many people think that relaxation is the answer to stress. But in fact the true answer is resilience, the ability to be strong and rebound from whatever life throw at you. For more you can read my article “How Hypnosis Can Help YOU.”
What To Look For When Choosing a Hypnotist
Here are the things to focus on:
✔ Focus on compatibility and trust. Trusting your hypnotist is essential for a successful outcome.
✔ Focus on effectiveness and results. You are buying a RESULT not hypnosis sessions.
✔ Do not focus on price. Do not focus on time. You are buying expertise not time. You are buying a SOLUTION to your problem.
The story goes that Picasso was sitting in a Paris café when an admirer approached and asked if he would do a quick sketch for him, on a paper napkin. Picasso politely agreed, swiftly executed the work, and handed back the napkin — but not before asking for a rather significant amount of money. The admirer was shocked: “How can you ask for so much? It took you a minute to draw this!” “No”, Picasso replied, “It took me 40 years.”
For those on a really tight budget, there are some very good self-help books out there. You can learn to do it yourself, even if it may take longer. With a hypnotist you are buying speed, experience and expertise.
- Plan on several sessions, in general between 3 and 10. If you reach 10 sessions and the problem has not been solved then it’s time to reassess the situation. Hypnosis is a rapid procedure but not instant. And sometimes the root cause and a permanent solution may be hard to find. Imagine a heart surgeon that have to operate daily. Today his patient had his heart in the right place. But yesterday’s client, he found it in the right foot. And the day before it was in the left armpit. Who knows what tomorrow will bring? Because each human mind is different, this is basically what a hypnotist must operate with. This is why tapes may work only so far (they are one-size-fits-all). Nothing works 100% of the time. Be wary of hypnotists claiming 100% success rate. Yes, there is a risk … and you minimise the risk by choosing a competent hypnotist. Discuss your concerns with your hypnotist.
- No scripnotists. Sadly there are still some hypnotists out there that just read to you a script. Avoid them. They are not hypnotists but scripnotists. You may as well buy some audio tracks, and save yourself a truckload of money. No script survives the first encounter with a real client with a real problem.
The power of live sessions is in the feedback loop that is created, and in the ability of the hypnotist to adapt to your needs in the moment.
- No “crouches”: headsets, music, etc. Would you trust a bike instructor with training wheels on his bike? Any kind of “helper” tool is ultimately an impediment because it restricts what a hypnotist can do, it forces a certain work flow (like shoes of just one size) that may not be appropriate for you — remember: the feedback loop between you and the hypnotist is critically important.
- No relaxation induction. …“Relax your neck, relax your shoulders, relax your pinky finger … your earwax is relaxing now …” … and on … and on … and on … and before you know it, they’ve spent half an hour on relaxation alone instead of doing real work. An induction should last 4-10 minutes not more. You are there to solve a problem not to be relaxed. The less time it takes for the induction, the more time is left to do real work.
Mental relaxation is a different story. Some people are seriously stressed out and they need to relax (“The dog is alone in the house, will chew the new leather coach … Oh my God, who’s picking the children from school? … I saw the boss looking strangely at me, is he about to fire me?”) They need to put aside all those thoughts for the time of the session (they can pick them later if they really want them back).
- Be wary of hypnotists desperate to take on any client that still breathe.
And remember, you never know how far a change will take you, how many hidden benefits you will uncover once you solve your issues.